Pattern glossary
A reference for the patterns vera·you surfaces — drawn from the manipulation, abuse, and relationship-research literature. Having a name for something is often the first step toward seeing it clearly.
Dismissal & gaslighting
Blame-shifting
Control tactics
Direct harm
Structural patterns
Drawn from Gottman, Stark, Chan, Bancroft, and the broader manipulation and domestic-abuse literature. Having vocabulary is not the same as having a diagnosis.